You just came up with the Best. Idea. EVER! Your mind is moving a million miles per second as you start planning how you’re going to accomplish this major feat that leaves the world staring up at you on your mountain top in awe. You can’t wait to get started and tell everyone all about your ingenious idea. So, you tell your family, your friends, your church members, you even blog about it. As the words spill out of your mouth, you brace yourself for the overwhelming support, admiration, and excitement you just know you’re going to receive in response. Suddenly, you feel deep wrinkles forming on your forehead, y your brows nitting, and the corners of your lips shifting towards the ground. Oddly, a feeling of confusion sweeps over you. You say to yourself, “Why do I suddenly feel confused and discouraged? What happened to the overwhelming happiness and pride I was supposed to be feeling after sharing my dream with them?” Then you realize—you have just been the victim of a Dream Killer.
A Dream Killer is someone who responds negatively to your ambition. Their response may come in the form of words, actions, or expressions. Some Dream Killers are easy to spot, while others are much more skilled at camouflaging themselves. Some may have an ulterior motive for killing your dream, while others may just love the power in controlling the lives of others. Don’t fall into the trap of the crafty Dream Killer. Learn to recognize the signs of a possible Dream Killer so that when you’re face to face with one (and oh yes, you will be) you will know exactly what to do.
“You can’t do that. That’s too big for you. It will never happen. Someone is already doing that. Where are you going to get the money for something like that? You’re not smart enough to do that. You need more education. You need more experience.”
These are all typical responses from a Nay-Sayer Dream Killer. Everything they say in response to your telling them about your dream will be negative. They want to make you feel like your dream is impossible either because you are inadequate to accomplish something like that or because your idea just can’t be done.
The way to combat the Nay-Sayer in the Dream Killer showdown is to just do it and prove them wrong. Don’t engage in arguing with them and don’t try to defend your dream. Just politely say, “Nothing in this world is impossible and I can do anything I set my mind to. I recognize that a dream as great as mine is going to take a lot of hard work and dedication; therefore, I am already preparing myself to make it happen. ” Then walk away or change the subject. Don’t dwell on their negative words. Just research everything you need to make your dream reality and get to work!
The “Truthful” One
“I’m going to be honest with you. And this is not to discourage you, but just to make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into,” and from there, they begin to put you and your dream down while trying to make you understand they’re telling you all this because they, “don’t want to lie to you or give you false hope.”
The “Truthful” One is a very crafty Dream Killer. They try to camouflage their negativity with words like “truth, honest, love, care.” Don’t be fooled! They are just killing your dream softly, but they are still killing your dream! To The “Truthful” One say, “I appreciate your honesty and candor. I will carefully consider the points you’ve made as I go through the process of making this happen.” Don’t let them think for a minute that you’ve been defeated. Privately, you can consider what they’ve said—or not.
The craftiest Dream Killer of all. They know your dream is profound. It’s so great, they wish they had thought of it. They approach you in two different ways.
1) They make you think you can’t do it, then steal your idea and do it themselves.
2) They smile in your face and tell you how great your idea is. But all the while, they are already plotting how they can get started with this before you, steal your resources, and claim your dream as their own.
Usually, you don’t realize they are attempting to take your dream. That is what makes them the most difficult to defend yourself against. But don’t get discouraged. The best way to combat The Thief is not to put your dream on display for them in the first place. This is the best advice against all of the Dream Killers, actually. Keep your mouth closed about your ideas until you’ve already got it in place. Whether that means you need to get your work copyrighted, trademarked, published, etc. before sharing it with potential Dream Killers or people who you don’t know for certain that you can trust.
The Bottom Line
- Be careful to whom you share your dreams and ideas.
- Remember that even those closest to you can be Dream Killers.
- Surround yourself with positive people who support you and delight in your accomplishments and good fortune.
- If you do happen to find yourself in a dark alley with a Dream Killer, the less you say about your dream, the better.
- Stay positive, stay motivated, and stay encouraged.
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